In-laws live with us. At first it was agreed they would contribute a set amount for ‘rent’ and help out with groceries and incidentals in addition to certain minor chores around the house (taking out trash, refilling ice trays). FIL has apparently changed his mind, sits in the house watching tv all day, in his words “waiting to die”. Does nothing as far as personal care, waits for others to literally serve him meals and most often fix the tv because he punches the wrong button then, like a child, lies about it. (If we know what he did, we can usually fix it without resetting the whole thing). MIL acknowledges his behavior is upsetting, clucks when he won’t write a check for their portion of living expenses, but does nothing. Can we insist he follows through on doctor appontments? How can we get him to understand that living anywhere else would cost him money? Husband tries to reason and gets so frustrated he has stated he’s feels incompetent and sees no way out of our situation.