My husband is 84 years old and I'm 53 years old. He has mild dementia that is affected by his thyroid problem.
I started a full-time job and called a number of aging care agencies, including our county agency. I was looking for a volunteer or free person to come and help my husband, as we cannot yet afford to pay someone. I was told the I "may have to leave Michael at home for awhile until I could afford home care." This Tuesday, a county social worker brought police over to our house while I was at work and kicked in our door and removed him to a hospital.
What's worse, is that they examined when his thyroid gland was acting up, so his dementia was aggravated by this. I had to go to a court hearing this Thursday - and now I have another court hearing on Jan 7th, where they could "take custody" of my husband and take his pension money, meaning I would have trouble paying our bills.
The county social worker believes that Michael could come home and that "Family care" could be provided. Another worse aspect of this is that Michael is recovering and his dementia is improving -- and he is asking to come HOME all the time at the hospital! How can they do this after I asked for "constructive and positive" help?!
I have not received my first paycheck yet, so I have no idea what I can pay someone for help. We have a large credit card debt because of Michael's dementia behaviors. Lastly, we live in Wisconsin.