I have four boys ages 16,9,7,and 10 month old baby. My dad is 68 years old and has cirrhosis of the liver from IV drug use and pancreatic cancer probably from smoking for many years. My dad gets really sick sometimes and we have to take him to the emergency or urgent care! My older sister lives very close to him about 15 minutes away, while I live 45 minutes away. Every time my dad gets sick and needs to go to the emergency my sister who has NO kids calls me and demands that I pack up my kids and meet her at the emergency, she says that it's not fair that she goes and I don't. She makes me feel terrible and tells everyone in the family that I'm not helping. Which is not true I took care of my dad through my whole pregnancy with my last baby, I didn't even get to enjoy being pregnant because I was taking care of my sick dad! I feel bad for my dad but he made the choice when he put those dirty needles in his arm, should I keep putting my kids through the hassle of sitting in a waiting room because my sister thinks it's fair? My sister goes nightclubbing on the weekends while I'm taking care of my family and doing chores. Also. I bring my dad to my house three days out of the week to care for him. My sister visits him when he's at home for 1-2 hours and then leaves, I can't keep doing this I don't get a break for myself ever, I'm always taking care of someone! I chose to have kids not a sick dad, my dads let's me do everything for him from cooking for him to cleaning up after him when he's at my house isn't that enough? Why should I drag my kids to the emergency when he gets sick, when my sister could take him by herself?