Taking care of friend with stage 5 Alzheimer's. At my wit's end and want out to live my own life. Any advice?

Hi folks.
This subject became a little bit too painful for me, and opted to stay silent until I could figure things out. Went to see the doctor, and was recommended to wait 6 months, or more, before going to visit my friend. It seems like an eternity, but, if that is what it takes, so be it.

I call the place where she is at, and find out how she is doing. Feedback is sometimes well, other times, not so well. Guess time will tell how this will unfold.

Thanks to each and every one of you for your suggestions. There is no way I could have made it through this without your help.

Liesl, six months? Your friend has been placed, and daughters have stepped in. That is all very good. I imagine the daughters told you six months. Same thing happened with my Mom as your friend, threatening suicide (she always was a drama queen), and the facility asked us to stay away for a couple of weeks, hoping Mom would become more comfortable and accepting of staff that are there to help her. If you want to see your friend, I suggest you call the facility, they will not give you any information if you do not have a HIPPA release, or the medical POA. The call I am suggesting is to let staff know that you want to do anything that you can to help, if that is what you want to do. If they want you to stay away for six months, they may tell you that. But, quite frankly, I have never heard of such a thing. They cannot determine how your friend will be even in two weeks, it is take it as they come.

Just let them know what you want and are willing to do. Call and remind them each week, if that is what you feel comfortable with.

gladimhere,
I went to see my friend's doctor, and she recommended to wait 6 months, or more, before going to visit.

My friend's daughters did not place that restriction. This doctor is very competent, and knowledgeable of what is going on.