I am an only child and my dad passed away in 1990. I usually never stay anywhere around her since my kids have grown and are on there own. Anyway in the last year my narcissistic mother has gotten bad and can't live by her self. I have no help with her and I'm at wits end. I tell the Dr's. and they won't even take me serious. She is miserable to be around much less take care of her. I am done with her and don't know what to do she makes me go to bed at 7 pm like I'm a baby. I want to put her somewhere. My mental health is being effected because of all this.
No money, no POA call Adult Protection Services.
I can't imagine why you live with her.
The easy answer is to move out and go on with your life. This is your problem to resolve, not your mothers, take control of your life back.
The ball is in your court. Take Care!
Just because you are an only child doesn't mean that you have to be the one to do her hands on care. I hope you know that.
The next time your mother has to go to the hospital for any reason, make sure that the hospital social worker knows in no uncertain terms that your mother cannot return home as there is no one that can take care of her there.
They will try to talk you into taking her home, by promising all the help they can provide, but don't fall for it as it's all lies.
If you stand your ground and say NO, she cannot go home, they will have to find the appropriate facility to place her in.
And if you don't want to wait until her next real hospital visit, you can always call 911 and tell them that you suspect that your mother has a UTI,(yes even if you have to lie)and needs to be checked out.
Then you do as I said above and let them know that she cannot return home.
And of course you can also just move out and call APS to report a vulnerable adult living by themselves who shouldn't be and they will take it from there. The state will step in and take over her care.
You do have options, if you really want things to change. You're just going to have to take the first steps.