My mother is living with me and my younger brother who is 53 years of age has been a co-dependent on my mother about 20. She will not allow anyone to come into the home to be with her but she has asked my brother to come spend time with her once per week. The trouble is that when he comes she finds things to give him and he pays him money due to the feeling that she needs to give him. He takes the stuff and money even when he knows that we are dealing with her severe mood swings and we are pretty she has dementia. She has lived with me for five months now and she has not offered any money to me or offered payment of any kind. We have not taken one cent from her. She is very needy and has the shuffle walk. She uses a walker of just recently due to falling three times in the house. I do not want my brother to visit while we are not home and at work due to her feeling the need to give him money and things so he can sell them to make a living. She has given him about 3200.00 while living with us since May. I do not have POA due to her not signing the paperwork and will not sign the paperwork. I am afraid he will talk her into poa while I am at work and get her to sign papers making him the poa. It is my house can I tell her that he can only come to visit when we are at home? I need to get her diagnosed but getting her to the doctor is another matter. None of my other siblings will help with this matter and they all want me to go for guardianship but nobody wants to help pay for it. There are four other brothers, all older. Do I just get a lawyer and bite the bullet?