My mother has been after me lately to drive her down to Florida to visit her sister and to go to the beach. This is something I dread doing. My mother doesn't walk well at all. She has to stop every few minutes to use the bathroom, which can take about 20 minutes because of her mobility problems. The trip takes about 6 hours one way. She doesn't like her sister much. When I suggest that she call her, she says she doesn't like to talk to her. I ask her why she wants to visit her if she doesn't even like to talk to her. She just yells that she wants to go visit her sister.
This has gotten to be a sore point, since I would have to close my shop and board my rabbit at the local vet. My brothers recently went to Florida with their families and she was angry that they didn't take her. She doesn't stop to think that taking her would have turned their vacations into work. So now she is after me to take her.
I don't like long interstate drives. The idea of taking the trip with my mother saying the same things for 6 hours fills me with dread, as does the idea of frequent stops that turn the 6 driving hours in 7 hours. The worse thing is that I know when we get there, she will want to come home almost right away. She does that to me every time. She wants to go somewhere. We go. Then an hour or two later she wants to come home.
I know that the trip is not a good idea from my side. We'll most like drive down one day and she'll want to come right back. She can't walk on the beach. She can barely walk in the house. Still I know it may be good for her to talk to her sister one last time, even if it is only an hour or so. So I'm torn. If they were close, it would be a no-brainer, but they have avoided each other since leaving home.
I'm weighing the good and bad of this and really don't know what to do. It would have been nice if one of my brothers had taken her, but they didn't. I don't blame them. But I'm left with a decision now whether to do it or not. I thought I would ask other people on the group that have parents with dementia and mobility problems what they would do.