When my father wanted to move here after my mom passed, I told him I had no problem with it but, I would need to close my daycare (after 32 years) and wouldnt be able to work outside the house as I would need to take care of him. He agreed it fair to pay me what I would make if i had 2 children in care full time. As POA on his account, I went ahead and wrote 2 checks a month, once on the 1st, once on the 16th. I paid for all food out of this for him, and some other small items. If/when he needed clothes, supplements, his cigs, meds, etc I wrote checks from his account directly to the store so there is a paper trail.
Fast forward to now. I have no money set aside because as utilities went up and food costs, some expenses out of pocket I didnt take from his account to cover extra expenses. Once all bills were paid no extra money set aside because there wasnt any extra. Scares the heck out of me because we almost lost our house last summer and worried about what I am going to do the day my dad will no longer be with us and the time it will take to restart my daycare and/or find a job outside the house. I cant risk losing my house again!
I am considering taking enough money to cover 3 months of mortgage and utilities from his account, which adds up to what he said was fair to him in the beginning, and setting it aside in another account to be sure i can pay those bills until I reopen my daycare, which may not happen until beginning of September (going to take that long to attend an orientation beginning of August and go through the app and process which they said could take 6 weeks!). Then to find the kids. I am good for this month, so the money would carry me at least until October.
Does anyone know if i can get in trouble for that? I have a friend who is a paralegal who has told me to do it, but then I have someone else telling me I could be hit with a lien against my house.
If it matters, the only ones left will be myself and my sister and there is a will. So it is spelled out who gets what. I honestly dont care about the money, but i worry about almost losing my house again!
I am looking for an elder law attorney today to talk to.