My Aunt and Uncle (mother's brother) came to visit for a week. He has been tearing up our phones, emails, etc. with suggestions on products that he think will help Mom. He sent both my sister and I an email about a Liftware utensil that is for people with hand tremors that steady the spoon or fork to make it easier for them to feed themselves. It is a great idea, but while Mom has PD, her tremors are not constant and therefore she doesn't need this. We told him that, but he ordered it anyway...with a price tag of over $300.00!
Now he is emailing us about a captioned phone so Mom can read what he is saying. First of all, if you have an accent (he doesn't, but I do!) it may not pick up on the correct words, and we don't believe Mom will be able to read it and respond in a timely fashion. It is also large and she would have to be in the same room with the screen for it to work. Daddy got her some software years ago (Dragon I believe) that would type out the words she said but she didn't like it therefore never used it.
He has also gotten and received the caregivers cell phone numbers and was texting the weekend caregiver wanting Mom to text him back on her phone. MOM CANNOT TEXT! (Sorry). AND then he got upset because she didn't answer him right away. Guess what? She may have been busy tending to Mom!
How do I get him to butt out, or at least back off, tactfully without hurting his feelings? We (my sister and I - and the caregivers too) were hoping that once he saw how Mom is, he would have more appreciation for what we are doing to help her stay at home. I appreciate that he is trying to make her life easier, but more gadgets that are expensive and she won't use aren't worth it. If he wanted to spend $300.00, he could have gotten Mom a gift card to Amazon or JC Penney's so she could get something she wanted.