Follow
Share

My sister has had responsibility for our aunt who has dementia for about two years now. The aunt lives alone in her own home. An aide comes in for several hours five days a week and does shopping, takes her to appointments and provides some companionship. My sister gives her money to buy our aunt food, toiletries, hairdresser, etc. I never got along with the aunt and did not have much contact with her. Last autumn I realized she had dementia and started trying to spend more time with her. My father has dementia and I am very involved with his care and this aunt lives one hour from me, so I don't have a lot of time to keep closer tabs on her. She gets Meals on Wheels. I went up to visit her this weekend and except for a can of soup, a half-eaten Meals dinner and some fruit, there was no food in the house nor was there any toilet paper or tissues. The sister plans to move her to AL in another state, where the sister will be living part time. I don't think the aunt knows the sister won't be there that much. This also means taking away the aunt's elderly cat, to which the aunt clings. She has taken the aunt's jewelry, which I don't think the aunt knows. The family also wonders about potential stealing from the aunt, who has about $500,000 in assets. She did steal money from our father several years ago. My main concern, though, is the lack of food and toilet paper. My sister and I don't speak because of her refusal to communicate any information about our mother with AD and she boasted she knew our mother was dying before any one of us and didn't inform us. I feel bringing my observations to her attention will do nothing and they are leaving in about one month. Feels to me that State won't have time to be involved and then AL will take care of her. What can I do in meantime? This feels like it could be abuse but my feelings toward sister are so negative, I don't know if I can be objective.

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Before you do anything, buy toilet paper, food, clean or anything call the law and tell them that you believe that there is an elder abuse situation, they should show up within hours to access the situation, if your aunt is deemed to be being abused they will intervene right now. Your aunt will end up at a hospital for observation and to be checked for physical abuse signs. We made the mistake of removing my dad from the house before we called, as he was no longer in danger his abuser walked Scott free. Also include that you believe that there is financial exploitation involved as well. Do not worry about your feelings for your sister, give the facts and share your concerns about your aunts inability to protect herself. Act now so the abuser can not benefit further from this disgusting behavior. God Bless You and be with you, it will be a huge challenge.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.