How am I supposed to make my own life and money when taking care of my 97 year old in her home 24/7 to keep my siblings and others saying I am leaching off her? I never fully moved out from her home since she has no other family in the state. They are 2 and 6 thousand miles away. I tried to leave but I felt she needed some family near. So I have been either living with her or very near to her for over 30 years. In 2007 she was 95 years old and I was not with her 24\7 but was within a 15 minuet drive. That all changed when she fell down the stairs. I have not left her for more than 2 hours since. She just got over pneumonia. It took over 3 weeks of care by me. How am I supposed to have a income under these conditions? She has too much income for any agency to help and Dad was a veteran but not during war.