I came across this site today and I read some comments about persons caring for their love ones. It reminds me I am not alone in this situation. My husband is 63 years of age and he had a stroke 2 and a half years ago. I am his full time caregiver in the mornings plus I have a full time job. He has right sided paralysis and uses a hemi-walker. Can't speak, he communicates by nodding and gestures. He can say about four words thank you, yes, no and hello but not clearly. He was a very active person and now he has given up. He said he wants to die. He had lost so much weight and for weeks now he is refusing to eat lunch and dinner. His breakfast he eats now about 50% of what he used to eat. He isn't drinking much fluids, probably one 8oz bottle of water a day plus he drinks about 16 ozs of orange juice a day. His ribs are showing and he looks emaciated. I have cried buckets of tears seeing how my husband has come to this. He is on antidepressant and likes it's not helping him, he is very depressed. He don't want to go anywhere, not even to his doctor appointments. He refuses to see his family and does not take their calls which has caused them to blame me for that. I told them he had a massive stroke and ever since, they have been nasty to me. They sent the police and APS to our home. They found nothing wrong at our home. I have been caring for him and sometimes I feel it's not enough. Recently his brother threathened to come kick down our door and beat me up. My husband is scared because this brother killed their own brother years ago. Now I am scared. It's been really stressful for me. I am just making sure he is comfortable and preparing for that time.
Thanks for any advice.