I have a freind that I have been looking after lives with me in my condo
I believe he has mild form of dementia
i need support advice help in dealing with outbreaks yelling at me occasionally gets confused/lost
still dresses showers shaves poops pants
diagnosis’s HELP
Do you have POA for this person?
If not you are getting into a quagmire. It will be difficult to get and give information to his doctors (even if he has you on his HIPAA forms)
Are you going to get paid to care for this person?
If he has dementia you might be looking at 10 years, 20, 30 years of caregiving. (and if you do not have POA it will be difficult to place him in Memory Care if and when it comes to that)
The first thing is to get him to his doctors for a full exam. And while there make sure that you are included on HIPAA forms. Mention the outbreaks, yelling and agitation there are medications that can help.
Does this person have family?
They are the ones that should step in and make decisions if you are not POA.
I have used the gender as HE since you mentioned "shaving" but if I am wrong..the advice still stands.
I would call APS. Tell them your "roommate" is showing signs of Dementia. (The incontinence means the person is pretty much into the Dementia) That you are not in the position to care for this person. Their care is beyond your ability. The State should take over thevperson's care if no family member is willing to do it.
I so hope you have kept finances separate.
And from what you're describing, your friend has way more that just a "mild form of dementia."
You can always call 911 saying that you think he have a UTI, and once he's in the ER, you tell them that he can no longer return to your condo as you can no longer care for him. You say that he is an unsafe discharge, and the hospital social worker will have to find the appropriate facility to get him placed in.
And whatever you do, DO NOT let him drive. PERIOD. End of sentence.
A person driving with dementia is no different than someone driving while drunk or high on drugs.
He's already getting lost, and you would feel horrible if he were to hurt of kill someone because of his lack of judgement and broken brain.
Dementia is horrible, and caring for someone with it, is very hard.
I wish you well in getting the help you and he both need.
Do you get paid as a caregiver for your friend...or is she paying you rent to live with you? How did it come to pass that you began "looking after" your friend? I'm asking because it's big responsibility to assist someone with even mild dementia. Are any of her family involved in her care?
Has she been diagnosed by a doctor - because she should also be under a doctor's care and advisement.
Looking forward to your feedback!