My dad is 70 and is a Vietnam vet. He receives services through the VA but after a recent MRI I would like for him to get a second opinion. He is refusing. Mom works full time as a teacher and dad is left alone the majority of the day. He needs knee replacement surgery on both knees but due to his weight and taking blood thinners they will not operate. He has a lot of difficulty getting around and he has fallen several times. Mom doesn't want to be the "bad guy" and make him do things. He is a diabetic and is on a program to prevent his feet from being amputated but the VA doesn't have him checking his glucose levels. I'm afraid that without someone to be with him he may fall and injure himself. I have asked for POA but they refuse. I am at the point where I feel like I may need to go to court and ask for it but I'm not sure what challenges I would face in doing so. I am in a different state than they are as well.