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My father is 86 years old Alzheimer patient.
Now he wants to visit his old village where many many years back his family were staying.
He is lot worried about his bad health.however he is not aware of his memory loss. He does not consider his current house as his house.
all the time he insist to go to old home by train,We tried to divert by giving all possible reasons,He tells us that since many days we are telling same thing,and his life is ruined,start cursing himself for coming to this place(his own house since 40 years)
he is crying and weeping and adamant to just go. We are worried about him.anybody has any suggestions so as to remove his fear of health and stop insistence to go by train to home

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pnshah,

This is a fairly common problem with our elderly who have Alzheimer's. They want to go back home, back to when things were good and there was love and family. They're tortured now by a fractured memory and nothing makes sense and they want the comfort that only "home" can bring. And that's usually the home in which they grew up with their parents and siblings. But as the old saying goes, you can't go home again.

I would try to divert your dad's attention when he begins talking about going home. Don't tell him he can't go, don't give him reasons why he can't go.That will only anger and frustrate him. Instead, get him focused on something else. An news article he may find interesting that you can read to him or something on the TV. Or ask him a question about his earlier life, maybe something about what he did for work. Anything to take his attention off "home".

As for the crying and weeping and heartbreak he's experiencing, his Dr. may be able to prescribe a light tranquilizer. I'm not saying drug the desire to go home right out of him but if he's upset about this issue and you're working extra hard on trying to divert his attention a little help from an anti-anxiety med isn't the worst thing.
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