Lives alone in home. No longer drives. Diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment and impaired executive function by 2 different neurologists a few years ago. She was in denial about diagnosis and refused oral treatment. Few months ago, she started to think boy next door was dirtying her outdoor windows, cleaning them, only to repeat this cycle daily, sometimes a few times a day. In addition to other “damage” this “boy” has done, she now thinks that he is getting in her home and doing damage (ie/ scratching furniture, changing color of hardwood floor planks, damaging indoor windows etc. She has already called the Sherrif x2 regarding her “findings” We have cameras set up outside her home, and inside at entry ways. Despite trying to reassure her that no one is getting in or around her home, there is no getting through to her. She has refused have someone in the home paid to stay with her to “catch the boy” or us to spend night with her or stay at our home. She is truly convinced that this “ boy” is getting in her home, even though she has never caught him. Not sure if these are hallucinations, but she cannot relax, sit still as she is constantly looking for “damage” . ? How well she is sleeping. Message sent to PCP, and recent labs/urinalysis fairly normal. Have tried distraction, changing the subject, getting her out of house at least 3 times a week. Husband and I are at wits end. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you
She was already diagnosed 2 years ago.
She is clearly now advanced in her dementia and no longer capable of living alone at home. She is in grave danger.
If you are not already her POA then it is time to call APS and explain that you are not guardian or POA and that she isn't safe at home anymore, and requires assessment she will not allow you to get. They will take over getting her into assessment and there you will work with social workers toward getting temporary guardianship or toward getting her guardianship of the state so they can get her to safety and manage her funds for her.
Good luck.
Stop trying to get her to accept your reality. It’s not hers.
Follow Geatons advice to get the poor woman placed in a Memory Care Assisted Living facility asap.
Best of luck to you.
There are medications that can help with the anxiety and hallucinations but if she is non compliant with medications that might be a problem.
the fact that she will not allow anyone in is a problem and a matter of safety since she may not be safe to remain in the home alone.
Good possibility that you will have to wait for some event that will force a decision.