I have a family, work full time and take care of my father 79. He lives 5 minutes away in his own home. I am his chauffer, patient care advocate, house cleaner, yard care ...you get the idea :). We have both looked into having either insurance or Medicaid pay me for the things I do to help defray cost and maybe let me take care of him more without having to rely on an outside paycheck exclusively. We have run into the wall, that he "makes to much" because of a pension and social security, he is ill but not in a life threatening way (thank god) that would need nursing care so he cannot get any financial outside help. He is not a veteran either. I have just noticed a slow atrophy of what I am able to get done at his home, my home and work. Something has got to give, I have spoken with a councilor for myself and explored many different options...no luck. I've had suggestions for "gaming" the system that I won't even consider. I just want to be able to take care of my family...all of my family without running myself into the ground doing it. Any suggestions would help I'm sure! Thank you in advance to all who offer suggestions.