My dad is 90 and my mom is 72 and I am an only child. She was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and is struggling with short term memory. He has become her complete caregiver and he is very stubborn, Private and prideful. They have regressed on anything electronic, so don’t use internet or cell phones. They also have decided for fun they like to just get in the car and drive. I know it is dangerous, but he will not listen. I am about to put a GPS on their car. He also doesn’t want to tell me anything and says he doesn’t call me when things happen (like he falls) because I am too busy and he doesn’t want to bother me. No matter how much I assure him otherwise and tell him it is more of a burden that he doesn’t call me, he just will not. His new thing is becoming obsessed with something until it is done. Like he needed his shrubs trimmed and I told him we would do that but before we could get it done he found someone that ripped him off. He is currently obsessed with his tv/phone. He must talk to ATT 3 times a day And keeps getting people to come to their house. Then he gets a cable advertisement in the mail and calls them. He finally tells me because he is in a big mess and doesn’t even understand that he is paying for 2 services. People continue to rip them off and he will not listen to me because he’s so much smarter. I am beyond fed up. I’ve dealt with a back injury from a fall with him, a surgery with her that led to me staying in the hospital with her for 4 nights and her completely losing it, to now him simply not listening and making my and my sweet husband’s life harder. Not to mention that they will do anything possible to keep from going to a doctor’s appointment- even get in the car and hide from me. I am currently torn between telling him that if he won’t tell me what’s going on then I won’t help (we all know that won’t work) to literally making them go to assisted living. I can’t help someone that is constantly working against me. Thoughts? I’ve tried talking and rationalizing, but that just doesn’t work.