She lives in a different state and can be emotionally abusive. I don't know how to handle it. I am at such a low point. My mother had a mini stroke about a year ago. My mother lives in a different state and I am an only child. I spent two weeks with her after her stroke. She was mean, said the nastiest things to me and made me cry; I am a grown man and she brought me to tears. My mom is a bully by nature and has always labeled herself as a victim. In her opinion no one has had it worse than her. My moms neighbors have called me over the past year telling me that she continues to deteriorate. I have sent countless letters to her doctor and filed three cases with APS. APS has told me that they have investigated and she is fine. Until she does harm to herself or there's there is nothing they can or will do. I also called a lawyer to seek advice, and he reiterated what APS told me. My mother and I are map now estranged because she is so difficult to be around and her neighbors don't want to help her for the same reasons. My mom was emotionally and physically abusive to me as a child. She raised me as a single parent and I know that wasn't easy. If she weren't my mother I would have nothing to do,with her because she is so toxic, and I feel ashamed and guilty for feeling this way; like some kind of monster. I want her to be okay. I want her to be safe. But, I just do not like or want to be around her. What should I do?