I am still struggling trying to get my mom to go to assisted living. She is still refusing to go! I am an only child, working mom, wife, and still have kids at home. My mom will not hire someone full time to come in she has part time help a couple days a week at night and depends on me the rest of the time. I am TIRED! I am worn down and wishing it would go away. I held a place for her at the AL but she doesn't know this because she would be mad that I spent her money on a room there. I only have this month to make the move or I am going to have to give up the AL. I cannot do this anymore and need her to be somewhere I know there are people to care for her and she will have access to meals anytime of the day, I don't have to worry about the electric going off in this bad winter, ETC. So many things, but she WILL NOT go. She is only 68 and has dementia. She can remember many things, it is just mostly her short term. She doesn't remember when she talked to me, or how to set clocks when the electric has been off due to the weather. She can't always remember our phone number but knows where to find it. Simple things are going down hill except her stubbornness. She always makes me feel I am doing something wrong. I am being "mean" when I suggest the AL facility, or "look how you treat me" of course after I mention the AL. She always has an excuse, the windows are too high, it's only two rooms, I don't have anything to wear, how will I get my groceries, on and on. I try to encourage all of these things will be fine, but to her everything is terrible. I need help!
jewel - woo hoo!!!