My mother has untreatable secondary cancer , I am the only family, until a few wks ago she managed alone in her home & I daily called with meals etc. The past 3 wk mum has gone weak not been eating & in bed feeling very ill so I have stayed at hers to care for her day & night , the problem is I am in ill health myself with a heart condition, fibomyalgia, and depression / anxiety & it has mentally & pysicly drained me, as a cry for help pallative care came out & arranged for mom to go into a pallative care him for 2 weeks to see if they can manage her pain & strengthen her up a bit so I am so releved th have a break. The problem I am now facing is I have been told if after 2 weeks she is a bit stronger ( & I hope she is of course ) that she could maybe go home with a care plan were someone would call 3 times a day for her needs ( great ) & of course I will help as much as I'm able BUT I'm told there is only 1-2 night calls a week they do, so I would be expected to sleep at moms 5-6 nights a week , & as much as I want my mom home & I want to help I know I am not well enough or strong enough to more or less live every night at my moms , befour she has just gone in pallative care for a short time she was needing me through the night upto 4 times thus I was getting hardly any sleep, also I'm finding myself very upset as my mom can be demanding & expects everything quick & now & when I try & remind her I cannot rush due to my ailments she says she doesn't care & she's the one with cancer . Apparently there will be a meeting of myself, hospital, mom, pallative care etc in nx week or so to discuss what happens next & prob want to arrange her going home, how can I make everyone understand I cannot take on a big care role as I'm not well enough without sounding selfish & my mum resenting me ? I'm having panic attacks on a daily basis as I'm so worried about everything. I love my mom & want her to have the best care & I know I cannot provide that even with help . Any advice / help would be greatfully appreciated thank you so much.