My husband is an only child. His job is stressful and consumes a lot of his time. So, I try to help his mom when I can, which it has mostly fallen to me, although he has stepped up more in recent months. She is widowed and a very needy person and has always been babied, which she admits to. She is able to live alone and mostly care for herself. She feels I keep him from her, when actually I encourage him to see her. Her neediness gets to him and he stays away. When she doesn't get the attention she wants, she gets very argumentative and unpleasant to me. I'm not perfect either. I've tried fighting back and trying to talk with her. Doesn't work... she doesn't see that. She's done anything wrong... it's just my fault. My hubby feels it's both of us, although he admits he sees I'm really trying. Also says his mom has always been difficult to get along with. Others have said this too. I mow her lawn, do her yard work, and many other jobs. It's rare that I get a thank you or a smile. I've also tried calling or visiting her and doing fun or nice things for her. Doesn't work, so I stay away now. So, when three of us are together, I try to say nothing - no comments or opinions- and just let them talk. Comments from me about anything often results in her being argumentative and snippy. I also try to let my husband walk with her, open doors for her etch instead of me. In a way I try to be invisible. Typically, she talks to me when she wants something from me, which she seems happiest when others are doing something for her and babying her. Regular conversations are rare between her and I, but she will talk to others. The bad part is that I'm getting to where I don't want to be around her and I feel very stressed when I am. But if I let them go alone when my husband expected to go, I'm concerned it could affect our marriage. He wants me with them, which is sweet, but I feel she needs time with just him. I can't help thinking that she doesn't want me around. I think she wishes I wasn't so my husband could move in with her. My husband just wants us to get along. He's tired of complaints from both of us, which I can't blame him. So, I try not to say anything and just take it. He is a peace loving person and hates confrontation. I'm really trying but I just don't know what else to do. Sorry about rambling and ranting. Thank you for listening.