Mthr has moderate AD, and is a 9 month survivor of stage 2c colon cancer. She has been in Assisted Living/Memory care for almost a year. Recently, she has been calling the office to talk to my husband, mad that I have her checkbook, and asking when her sentence to that place will be over.
She varies between asking him to call her mother (dead for 32 years) and tell her she will spend the summer at her house, to demanding she be returned to her own house (which will be demolished later this summer). She claims no one told her that her father in law had died so that she would not get any of the inheritance (He died 40 years ago, and I remember cleaning out his house!). She has always hated me, so her antagonism towards me is nothing new.
Any ideas of how to deal with this unhappy state when she calls hubby, or when I visit and she gets on a roll?