My mother and I are caring for my 97 year old great god-mother. She is on hospice, stays in bed most of the day,doesn't eat much or often, but thankfully is still very present and sharp. She is extremely demanding and controlling. We realize that this is just an attempt to have some control over what is happening to her but has become very difficult to deal with. Daily, she comes up with food demands that send us scrambling to the grocery store or restaurants. Sometimes the her specific restaurant only makes her "prime rib open faced sandwich" on Monday and she wants it on Tuesday. Other times the problem is (in her words) "None of the food places sell it, you're going to have to make it. Let me tell you the recipe". Many times, once we finally are successful in finding and preparing her request, she doesn't want the food any more, or worse, she wants something else.
Can anyone share their strategy for handling demands like this?