Am i legally responsible for not helping my elderly relative anymore? I visit weekly, help pay bills, prepour meds, shop and take her to physician appts but her nastiness/hurtful comments and mind games have left me too stressed to help anymore. She has been an emotionally abusive person her whole life to my mom and i (we are both only children). We have been taking care of her for over 10 years and she is now 96. She lives on her own with the help of a HHA three times a week. She refuses to pay for anymore assistance even though she has the money. She tells us it is our responsibility to take care of her. She plays the victim to everyone else, telling them we refuse to help and we yell at her. I leave in tears by her hurtful comments. Can i just tell her we are no longer going to help her anymore. Can i be held legally responsible if i stop care? I have set a precedence of support but want to stop. She is of sound mind but fragile health and is her own rep payee and makes her own medical decisions.