I thought I posted this question but didnt see it come up. So here is a condenced version. I wake up and think of moms problem of the moment or a phone call I have to make to straighten out for her. A lot of my waking moments are focusing on her and her constant problems. Large and small. She calls me and tells me all her upsets and problems. I told her i didnt want to here about all her problems a while ago when she was obsessing about a few very big problems if the came true.
But that didnt last very long. She keeps needing me to buy things for her. Make phone calls. She is 89 years old and walks with a walker. Lives in her home. Brother with personality disorder just moved back home. But doesnt help much. And doesnt want her to spend money.
Barbara
Consider having a caregiver come to her home to help her. Or maybe it's time for her to move into assisted living. There's a range of facilities and level of care provided. Maybe living somewhere that provides meals, housekeeping assistance, and a bus that takes people on field trips to shopping would be helpful to her.
Make time for your life. It's important, too!! Hugs!!
What type of personality disorder does your brother have? People with personality disorders can still do things. I thing I would tell my mother to ask my brother to do it. If you share the responsibility it will be much easier. Your mother probably feels it is easier to ask you to do something, but she has to realize that you have a life, too.