I thought I posted this question but didnt see it come up. So here is a condenced version. I wake up and think of moms problem of the moment or a phone call I have to make to straighten out for her. A lot of my waking moments are focusing on her and her constant problems. Large and small. She calls me and tells me all her upsets and problems. I told her i didnt want to here about all her problems a while ago when she was obsessing about a few very big problems if the came true.
But that didnt last very long. She keeps needing me to buy things for her. Make phone calls. She is 89 years old and walks with a walker. Lives in her home. Brother with personality disorder just moved back home. But doesnt help much. And doesnt want her to spend money.