Mom has demetia and is in an Assisted Living Center. I visit at least 4 times each week and it is not enough for her. The staff says she is fine and that she is just "playing" me. She cries everytime I talk to her or visit her. She begs for me to bring her food, tissues, bandaids...anything that she thinks will get me to visit even more. She socializes and apparently appears happy when I'm not around, but absolutely miserable with me. I know I need to drop the guilt, but how do I get past the feeling that I am letting her down when I don't visit everyday. BTW, she is often angry and says ugly things to me in addition to just being plain miserable. How do I separate from this? Is it okay to stop visiting so often and stop answering the phone when she calls 20 times each day? I work full time and I'm really getting tired and discouraged. Just now...while typing this message, she called and said that I had to get there asap. When I told her I would have someone check on her, she berated me for not caring about her and putting work ahead of everything. HELP!!!