Mom has this blue blazer (ratty) that she wears every day. She has done this for years - wearing the same thing for weeks, months. The AL told me they had to distract her to get it out of the apartment to wash it, and then as soon as it was back she grabbed it and put it on again. She has a closet full of clothes. If I see her in it one more time, I will scream. The AL doesn't feel they have the right to take it away. Should I? (She has dementia and might not even notice if it is not there, or she could accuse people of stealing.) All I know is that the jacket HAS TO GO!
Also Mom will not take a shower, won't let anyone help. The only shower she has had in the past three years is when my sister forced her the day we took her to AL. She whimpered, whined and moaned the whole time. AL has tried everything but they can't force her. Should my sister and I force her, or hire someone to do it and just tranquilize her for the "event'?