I have been doing all the physical bending, lifting, toileting, bathing for my Dad going in 3 years 3 times per day. My husband helps me out on wed. & Fri. And takes him all day on Sat. so I can get my mother out. Mom finally agreed to have someone come in two nights per week. She doesn't seem all that happy about it now that it is becoming a reality. I am realized but also guilty. I saw my Dr. And she put me on meds for depression which is between my husband and I only.