My mom is a vascular dementia resident in assisted living.She is 79 and I am one of the siblings that has a difficult time saying no.She is mobile and still wants to continue drinking and taking prescription pain pills. My dad died two years ago and she always ask me to take her to eat where she can order wine. She also buys little bottles of wine at the grocery when I take her shopping. She has type 1 diabetes. The assisted living home can't give her care when she drinks if they know she is drinking.. It isn't allowed. I have brought her the two little bottles when she begs me. I have been told to stop by my sister and other family members but I have a hard time not giving her what she wants. She had always been a drinker and pill popper. That is why she has some of the medical problems she has now.