And get him to turn over his finances to my caregiver mother? My dad has dementia and goes to the bank and takes out money without my mother's knowledge and she has no idea what he is spending it on or doing with it. She is afraid he will do something financially reckless. We submitted a letter from his neurologist to the bank that said he is not capable of handling financial affairs, but the bank manager stated that is not enough. We would need a court order. They live in New Jersey.