I got called trifling,lazy and evil a lot when I was growing up. Now I see it was a sought of diversion and manipulation to keep me indebted and guilty to continue being my mothers puppet and cleaner and maid. I love her dearly but How to I end the resentment when I see the same behaviors. I live with my mom and as she gets older I am seeing that she never really cleaned or did any of the things she chastized me and belittled me for. Now I get bitter feelings because im doing the same thing I had to do as a child when she was supposedly more healthy and she has always said I havent ever done anything for her and Im constantly doing. I feel burnt out emotional. Sometimes I feel I cant respect myself if I do certain things because Im doing the cinderella things again and Im supposedly stop being cinderella but certain things have to be done and realizing most of these skills my mother never had which is why I had to do it.