My 90 year old mother is home and doing fine as long as I guide her with certain things daily like medicine but when I want to go home each day she puts the guilt trip on me about afraid to be alone..i know she is fine and so does she..i can see her on video camera after I leave and she is fine but she has always had the need to control me since i was a child and never let me have a life of my own. My health is not well an dI know the nonsense of taking care of yourself but that is impossible when you have a manipulative mother who is sucking the life and energy out of you for attention. Her paranoia does not allow anyone to come in the house to help me and nursing home is out of the question. I am 56 years old and cannot even hold a job cause she keeps getting me fired by faking heart attacks when i have to go to work....nobody seems to understand by saying just say no but how do you do that when it may be real someday. She can be violent so it is not safe for me to have someone in house with her..I wish someone truly understood what this is like instead of just giving me the textbook responses. Her goal is to get me to move in with her but that would be signing my own death warrant.