Parents (76) care for disabled sister (40s). Sis lives alone but massively dependent on Dad daily. He is in good health but Mum hemiplegic after stroke, + vascular problems.
Have quit being personal carer, maid, driver, cleaner etc for sister. Other supports stepped up.
But no emergency or long term plans made by parents. Just won't listen. Assume I will fill Dad's shoes.
Feel like I've been swimming against the current for so long. Many people advice me to just float along, let it go, worry about it if/when it happens.
If sister lands on hospital (frequent faller) I will not be returning her home. Dad can - his choice.
If Dad gets ill - ??? Mum goes to emergency respite care but they will not take under 65s.
I am a planner - so hard to stop worrying about the future.