She has dementia stemming from traumatic brain injury, basically no short term memory, so I take care of all her bills (I'm on her accounts) and pay someone to take care of her. She really can't take care of herself and my brothers are pushing for a nursing facility. I can't do that to her, but I can't make her come live with me without guardianship. I'm just afraid that guardianship will invite too much control from the courts. Shopping for what she wants and eating out are really the only expressions of independence she has left.