Without going into too much detail, I will just say that my stepmother is caring for my Dad, age 91, who is still quite self-sufficient.
I call every couple of months to see how he is doing and it always creates havoc.
Here is what happens. She always answer the phone (he does not have a cell phone and doesn't want one)(. I chit-chat a bit with her and then ask to speak to my dad, at which point, she becomes difficult saying things like ... uh, um, I will see if he is available, or we are very busy, etc. She then puts him on and after around three minutes she will start screaming (talking loudly in the background) that she is expecting a call, or they need to do something that cannot wait, etc.
In the beginning, I truly fell for this. I realize that she does not like me due to the fact that my primary allegiance was always to my Mom. You see my stepmom wanted to be invited to the same occasions that my Mom went to ... like Christmas, and other major holidays. My mother never felt comfortable with that so stepmom was not invited and very hurt. Wrong or right, there was no other way. Finally a solution was devised whereby, Xmas eve would be with stepmom and Xmas day with Mom.
In any case, this morning, she simply would not put me through at all. So, I asked how he is doing and she mumbled something, but not much information.
He does not use cell phone or the internet, so I just don't know what to do.
Thank you very much.