I have DPOA. My stepdad doesnt want me to help take care of my mom. She has Alzheimer's mid stages. She takes a shower about once a week. The house is not in livable conditions. She wears a cpac and oxygen and is suppose to wear them when she naps and at bedtime. About all they do is sleep and eat. i do her laundry because she dont do it. She will wear the same clothes for 2 or 3 days. He dont help her out at all. He is with her because if she goes first he will get her retirement. He is a very selfish man. he is always bring up to my mom how im inferring in there lives. He jumps on me about once a week,saying im not taking care of my mom out of love. I am an only child. My mom is my best friend, she is my world. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Dont know what to do.