Out of decisions about her care & doesn't seem to want me around. She takes decent care of my mom but isn't comfortable getting her out of house/ out of car etc. which concerns me. My mom isn't being mistreated but stepdad doesn't value quality of life as he thinks she will just forget anyway. She has worked for us for 6 months, in which time he has given her 2 raises- she makes more than any of other caregivers- and she doesn't like if I ask her to do moms hair the way she's always had it or take mom out more- she said,' who do I work for' to my stepdad in that instance. I feel tension when around her. To complicate matters the house & finances are my moms left to her from my dads estate but she gave stepdad lifetime tenency( while symptomatic but undiagnosed.) He has become increasingly possessive of the money & gives me a hard time about buying mom winter shoes with HER money, clothes etc. I am the only sibling actively involved in moms daily care( up at house 3 or 4x week- scheduled in as caregiver 10 hours wk) My attorney brother is POA & health care proxy but relationship w/ him & other brothers strained due to resentment over their not seeing/ helping mom much. My mom married this guy 8 years ago- 2 years in they were having trouble but then she got sick- diagnosed Alzheimer's 5 years ago. They had a prenup but that got voided when changed will to protect house if she needs nursing home. He just put his name on her account so he could sign checks. Feels like he & caregiver playing house up at moms & I have no peace of mind at all over this - am I crazy?