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They have been deniers of the dx and say it's just old age, when 3 doctors have said vascular dementia/alzheimers. He requires monitoring for his meds and because he falls. He is left alone during the day and is allowed to drive after being told by MD's not to. What can I do?

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I have same question as cmagnum. Who has Powers of Attorney? Why does daughter say she took him? Is there any money that she may be trying to get?
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You step daughters have NO IDEA what they are getting into. Each phase of eldercare presents a new set of challenges and it's a non stop emotional roller coaster. I agree with others that your husband will soon be back. Consider yourself lucky that you are getting a break at this time. When they do bring him back ask them to give you occasional respite from your duties because you will need them.
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Who has durable and/or medical POA for him, if anyone?
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If you can stand it, leave him with stepdaughters as p says. They will learn the hard way pretty darn quick.

Did they take him legally? Wierd that he would voluntarily leave his home and you --unless stepdaughters convincing him you are over-reacting and nothing is wrong --which I don't doubt your assessment of the ALZ and dementia. He won't last long and will be begging to come home. Take this time for yourself to figure out how you will manage when he does return and make sure estate is in order. Consider your joint finances and how you can get some in home help when he returns when and if you need it, also, maybe AL or memory care facility and future costs.

Let us know what transpires.
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Your stepdaughter is about to learn a very hard lesson, and she will bring him back soon when she can no longer live in denial. You could call the county Adult Protective Services and ask them to check on his welfare. If he has a car, he can just return to you, but obviously he chooses not to. Like a bad little boy, he goes where he can get his way all the time. It's not going to last very long, trust me. All the chickens come home to roost, one way or another.
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