How do you accept and remain patient and respectful when one or both parents have alzheimers? Think my dad has it worse cause he is almost 87 years old. It just hurts and very frustrating at the same because he has always been a very sharp, smart man. Now he can barely hear and repeats same questions all the time and loses things. He has also fallen twice in the past month and now has to have a walker to walk. Now my mom is in a SNF from atrial fib, pneumonia and is still bedridden, can't stand up, has a colostomy and is incontinent. So, with Mom being sick and Dad, too, he is having a hard time handling all of this. I feel like sort of a sounding board sometimes and most of the time it does not bother me, but lately it is really bringing me down and don't want to be a b*@#h. To top all this off, have a tumor in my hand, possible carpal tunnel and rheumatoid arthritis and hurts all the time. My doctors are not very understanding or just don't care because the pain meds are useless. So, would be very grateful for any suggestions as am very moody, such as wanna cry, kinda mad and getting burned out from not getting a break. No income or transportation (except for Dad) and this is becoming a problem because he has been so sick lately making it hard for him to drive. He should not have to, but I cannot afford the insurance and fees it would cost for me to drive and he does not like anyone else driving. He is still able to drive pretty good, but gets tired easily. Just having a hard time handling all of this and my so called "friends" have all disappeared cuz I am broke and they are clueless and/or don't care.