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My mom passed away late January. She was my best friend my whole life. Afterwards I end up moving with my 84 year old grandmother who was living with my mother. Well its been a few months and we were both starting to look up. Than two days after mothers day my grandmother fell and broke her hip. Now she is in a nursing facility to recover. These two ladies are the only family I have. I still have not coped with the passing of my mother and now my grandmother is not doing good. How do I stay positive when Im about to lose all my family within a couple of months from eachother?

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I am sorry for your losses too Love2Much14 and agree with others that trying to force yourself to be positive might make things harder for you right now. I too have only a couple family members left who are aging and haven't built a separate family of my own. I think the answer for me and maybe for you now, is that it is time to reach out and find a group of caring people to be a part of when you are ready. No one can replace your family but it's still important to find ways to be socially connected and a part of the world.
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I'm so sorry your GM didn't make it. First of all it will take time. Lots of time. Rest. Eat well. Take walks. Be gentle with yourself and be extremly careful. You are most likely in shock.
Many of the folks on this site are in a similar situation or will be soon. It's a hard fact of life that we all die. Being positive might be too much to ask of yourself at this time. You will simply never be the same but you will survive. I encourage you to go for grief counseling. Attend a group. It's very hard to recover alone. Don't make major life decisions for at least a year. Come on this site and run any issues you have by the AC community. We will help you.
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Thank you for responding everyone. Its nice to know people are out there that truly care. My grandma has passed away as of yesterday. I feel numb. Since my moms passing I have tried to grief in different ways. Nothing seems to work. Now I need to know how to deal with the two only people in my life passing within months of eachother. Any ideas?
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I'm sure it's very frightening to think about your grandmother passing. I'm sorry about your mom and I know how hard that is and that you've hardly had time to mourn her passing.
How is your GM doing tonight? Was she able to have surgery on her hip?
Let us know how she is doing. Don't worry about the future. Just get through tonight and see how GM is going tomorrow. Come back and let us know.
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That is a tough question to answer. People have to face losses in their lives. We take in bits of the people who went before us and appreciate how they've enriched our lives. We feel their loss deeply, then reach out to others for emotional support. We also have a lot to give to other people. I guess that is the best way to deal with loss -- giving and taking love from the people around us.
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