For example: I saw my 90 year old mom putting a dish that was trimmed in gold into the microwave. I explained to her she could not do that. The very next day she was taking the bowl out of the microwave. She said it did not do anything to the plate. She had a reason why she did it and my brothers said these are just mistakes. I have come home and the gas was left on. Her response was that she was trying to clean the pan. Knowing the toilet had just overflowed she used it. Her response was she had to "really go bad" which caused it to flood to the lower level. She was cooking one day while I was home. There was something burning so I went to get her only to find her standing in front of it. Until I told her she was unaware but again blamed it on the pressure cooker not working. When I told her that she would not be able to ook while I was gone she responded " Then I just won't eat." I got meals on wheels and she stopped them after 8 days. My brothers offered to get her "life alert" but she said she would just hang it on the door. How and what am I suppose to do with this type of behavior? Are my brothers in denial with what is going on? I am also raising 5 and 9 year old granddaughters for the past 2 years.