My mother is calling at me after my dad died to live with me, but my apartment won't allow it and I just recently moved, unable to support her. I know she's been leeching off my father's Social Security retirement and hasn't worked ever since. I was thinking of ignoring her since she is taking advantage of my good consciousness. She's within her 40-50's, but even then she should be able to support herself if she did find a job. She lives in CA and I live in AZ.
I should add that my mother always take my father's side since he had money and always whip us because, hey they're alcoholics and that makes you a better adult, right? I was also planning to save up and finish my bachelor's because my parents took some of my money when I was living in their home while I was working to move out. I feel so drained when she calls and using my dad, but now after the passing, I feel very drained and burdened with a irresponsibility forcing me to be responsible.
I always found parent guidance from my teachers and friends to make me the way I am now.