I know some people in family can and be paid. My sister and nephew have recently moved out. When they lived with us they help out financially. Now that they're gone, we are struggling financially as we live on my husbands disability check and savings. If I were to work we would'nt be getting anywhere as anything I earned could only pay a small portion of the days I work and we would'nt be getting anywhere. We will not look at reverse mortgages or annuities as a means of getting cash. Those kind of things only make more money for the lending agency in the long run. Can I, the wife, be paid to be his caregiver. I'm aware that other family members or folks other than family, can be paid by the state, but I have'nt heard anything solid in regards to the spouse. I would chart meticulous notes and charting for the care I give him so that a record of legitimacy would be established for state authorities. I live in Washington state.