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Cherokee40, you do not have to convince us. Really. You are preaching to the choir. We would like to see your sister have a better quality of life. But there is nothing any of us can do about it. We've encouraged you to contact outside agencies. If that isn't working for you, see a lawyer. Perhaps you can at least get an order to see your sister more often.

Once again I urge you in talking to agencies or a lawyer to stick to the important concerns. Perhaps a lawyer can help you sort that out. Also be clear about what you want to have happen. More visiting rights? Your sister removed from her husband's custody? Her husband to take caregiving classes? A second opinion about her possible dementia? Know what you want, and present the evidence that makes you have this concern.

Good luck to you and to your sister.
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I think that you should sort things out with a therapist. You keep repeating yourself and going off on tangents that don't make any sense.
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3. Yesterday my brother in law called.
4. He said my sister had just seen all three of her doctors. Again he will not give the names.
5. He said she has gained some weight back which is helping with her strength.
6. I asked about her lab work. He also said she has never had a cholesterol problem and her labs on those are good and always have been. Should I believe him when she is on a cholesterol medicine? a statin at that...
7. He said he promised to keep us up to date which this is his first attempt at doing so. He promised he would call again with updates.
8. Then my sister got on the phone and held a very lucid conversation. My husband heard the conversation and he was sitting over a foot away. We were eating lunch.
9. The issue with how I got placed in a psych ward is the truth. I was reading the book about allergies. He told the paramedics I thought our house was killing me. Get real....the book is about things in your house that you may be allergic too. The name of the book is My House Is Killing Me!: The Home Guide for Families with Allergies and Asthma by Jeffrey C. May. Check it out for yourself on the internet.
10. Some things I have an anaphylactic reaction to. Fact not fiction. I carry two Epipens as a result. He witnessed the allergy testings (plural). He knew I was allergic to the cat. He refused to give it back to the daughter it belonged to but eventually made her take it back. Now she hates me even more. Sorry... First for changing her mother's house and then the cat issue. He turned to me and said, "Look at you, you're allergic to yourself." He said that with a very ugly and mean face and repeated it over and over while hunched over and pointing his finger at me. Would that not frighten you?
11. Therefore I know the doctors will believe the husband over an anxious wife any day. My primary care physician released me and stated I did NOT belong there. I then drove to my son's. My husband and I went through counseling through our church. He had some major issues where his daughters were concerned.
12. My husband was being manipulated by his daughters. They still try to manipulate but he no longer lets that happen. We live away from all of them now.
13. My sister went into that behavioral unit with bruises on her breasts and on her back. I saw the bruises. Her hands have no signs of being injured but her wrists do. Her forehead looks like it has been hit with a stiff hairbrush. She gets injured only while in the care of her husband, never in the care of her care provider who is NOT trained. My sister may have AZ however there has been signs of abuse and mind manipulation going on because evidence points to it.
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Update: My sister fell supposedly and hit her head on the coffee table. She had a craniotomy done which meant cutting a 2 inch by 3 inch section of her skull to stop the artery from bleeding. Yes the blow ruptured an artery in her brain. She is on a ventilator and will get a tracheotomy done today and will still be on a ventilator. she is not responding. She has been in the hospital in Neuro ICU since Thursday May 10th. When she is stable enough on the trach she will go directly to a critical rehab facility. She will not be sent to a room at the hospital. She is too unstable for that. She has opened her eyes only once and that was when the doctor did something that caused her to open her eyes only briefly and focused on her husband. Otherwise, she is sleeping and non responsive.
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I am so sorry to learn of your sister's condition.
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Cherokee40. I'm sorry this has happened to your sister. I'll keep you both in my prayers. Cattails
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Oh dear God...this is horrible. We will all keep you and your sister in our prayers. You have been so worried about her and now this.
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Cherokee40,Makes me heartsick to see what you are going through. My motherinlaw had dementia/Alzheimer' she passe away on July 20,2012. She had remarried in 1994 as my fatherinlaw passed away in 1987. Well they seemed to have a good marriage and we as her family never questioned anything...we trusted him! Well after we started to see she was getting more and more forgetful we questioned her husband and he said she was. He never told us that she had been diagbost with D/A untill 2007. We would suggest that they a power of attorney and a will drawn up. He had 1 daughter and Mom had 3 children. (Mom had money) Anyways he would get upset with us talking to them about this so we stopped bringing it up. Well as timed passed he to stopped taking her places , he took down her family pics and he would tell her her family didn,t care about her...That was so not true. he would never let her alone with us and he stopped bringing her to visit us. It just kept getting worse. He did finnaly get a POA and a will made up. The POA he put His daughter on and also his daughter is on as the executrix of the will. Now this did not happen until 2010 she in no way understood at that point what she was signing. Then in 2011 this step (who is in her 50's) had her name put on the deed of the house for $1. So both her daddy and my mother in law have passed away so is now owner of the home. Oh and she forged my M- I- L name. Her daddy helped with all of this. His excuse was we didn't care for her. A big lie! It is undue infuence! We are taking her to court which this daughter never thought we would do because we are peace makers. Someone has to be their voice..it is a fight the whole way but something we feel we must do because it is not what mom would have wanted. Also (there is so much more) because this daddy died first it put his daughter in charge of our mother..she had fell and broke her hip and she denied her surgery to have it fixed from there she declined fast because she had to lay on her back they said for the rest of her life ..and she did. From March until July when she passed.. We were not aloud to question anything because of the hippa laws and our names were not on the file for info. It has been an awful road to tow but we must push on for Mom and what we believe she wanted. She had told me when her mind was good that she did not trust his daughter...now we know why. I could go on and on but at least you get the drift of what we have been going through! I sure hope you keep pushing on if things are not resolved by now!! Blessings to you.
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