My mother is on oxygen and has had many other physical problems in the past few years that have left her unable to care for herself. My dad is 8 years younger, relatively healthy and recently quit working. He has felt overwhelmed caring for her, and I had encouraged him to get what help and support he can. (They live in a major city.) I am an only child and live on the opposite side of the country.
He recently let me know he was going to find someone to have a sexual relationship with, but that is all. He ended up instead signing up for eHarmony and is becoming very involved with another woman. He became very angry with me when I expressed concern that he is going to leave my mother. He said he would never do that, but he is spending more and more time with this other woman. When he goes to see her he leaves my mother alone.
My mother is aware of his girlfriend, but didn't feel like she can tell him no.
My home is completely inaccessible for me to move my mom here, and I cannot leave my family and move back to care for my mom.
I have lost all respect for my dad. He contends that what he is doing is fine because he is open about it. He also expects us all to welcome this other woman in to our family and eventually include her in family activities even while my mom is alive.
I am at a loss as to what I should do. My adult daughter lives about an hour or so away and checks on my mom as much as she can but she has a baby and another one on the way.
I feel as though I am the only one who has ever faced this type of situation. I feel bad for my mom who is feeling sad about the situation, but is trying to accept it. I feel angry that my dad is doing something I would never have imagined him doing, and that he expects all of us to welcome this other woman.