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My mom has no real regular needs; not clothes, jammies, personal care, room decor, etc. She can't walk or stand. She owns her car, but obviously no longer drives. Can we spend it on her car? Any other ideas? :-/

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Hi Captain,
I had to google that one, but I was on the right track. Haven't needed that stuff since we got high on Jesus over 30 years ago, but thanks anyway!
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Hi sunflo2,
That's a nice idea, and will see if I can spend on her to "share" with the nh. I know she can't give to any charity, so not sure if this is the same. Will be checking with the office at nh and Medicaid caseworker asap. Thanks!
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60 bucks buys you a half ounce of some flatly chronic bud nowdays.
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Just a thought, but can you spend it on muffins, treats,that maybe she can't consume "all of" but maybe can be shared with staff? What about a small library or items that get donated to the lounge or common rooms in her name?

I don't know if this is possible or legal use of the funds, but just a thought.
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While I would love her to get a soothing pedicure, sadly, she'd have to be sedated. She has a lot of anxiety and doesn't like people "messing with her". Yep, got the new comforter, music CDs, can't see well enough to look at photos. Today, I got her a few new clothes items, tho' she doesn't need them, but I felt like I accomplished something! ;-) Thanks for your suggestions, Sharynmarie, I know it isn't easy. ♥
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Maybe you could use the money on a pedicure...many elders have very thick nails, ingrown toe nails and an pedicure could be very relaxing for her. Even though you are a hair stylist, you could let someone else do it to free up your time for something else. Special food treats that your mother likes, a new comforter or afghan she would enjoy, spend the money on putting together some pictures of family for her to look at or even music from her younger years. You would be surprised at how your mother may react to music she can relate to.
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Hi 3pinkroses, thanks for your ideas. Mom can't walk or even stand; they use a hoist to move her in & out of bed. She has advanced AD so doesn't remember how to use a remote or phone, can't see/hear well, nor cares about tv (mac degen), and I (a stylist) do her hair. We have a lot of limitations apparently. Will keep brainstorming tho'. Thanks again & blessings to you too.
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I'm assuming this is her social security personal needs stipend? As far as I know, it can be spent on only her personal needs; et al: having her hair done, telephone, etc. My mother always seemed to need something as often in NH items are stolen. It could also be spent on special treats/foods she enjoys. Also, even if they are wheelchairbound, they can go out to lunch. Any necessities that make her happy and when you get down to it; there are many.
Blessings to you and take care.
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