We just put both my in-laws in the nursing home. They told us to start spending down some of their money, buy them clothes a TV etc. funeral expenses. We will still have some money left to use up. What else can it be used on, can it be used for repairs on their house even though they both are in the home or will that signal a red flag? We were told that we don't have to worry about the house for a year, the state can't come in and take it right away. What about a new mattress even though they are in the home?