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A big man with Alzheimers, his wife suffers from Parkinsons, she's small and frail. Caregivers were hired by son during the day, however they are on their own at night. The husband is quite active through the night having to go to the bathroom and unable to do this on his own wife assists and this is occuring 5x's a night plus he is disrobing etc. The son isn't aware of this situation but she tells me daily of her struggle with assisting her husband. Should I tell the son? I am one of her caregivers.

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Maintain patient confidentiality, especially in a situation where the Mrs. is upset that you contacted her son. If you are not there at night, it is totally possible Mrs. is making this up to get your attention and sympathy. It could be pure fiction; wouldn't surprise me if it was.
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I would say the son needs to know. But apparently you've given some additional information to tacy022 that impacts the decision. It is hard to post meaningful suggestions without knowing the full situation.
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Heydeb, after thinking about more of the situation after reading what you put on my board. No do not tell the son. It is very odd that the clients cannot communicate with the other workers because they do not speak English. The fact the woman feels betrayed when you report things to her son could be a sign of abuse. If you feel the situation is really bad, it is your responsibility to call APS.
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Absolutely; the son needs to know. It seems as if he's interested, so he should be made aware of the difficulty the wife is having.
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That depends on if you are hired by the son directly or an agency. If you are through the agency, you should report it to your supervisor and they should address the issue.
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heydeb, yes I would let the son know about this as he probably thinks his parents sleep through the night like everyone else.

I never knew my Dad would get up at night until he had a night caregiver who stayed awake throughout the night... she would write in the Agency diary that he got up 3 times during the night to use the bathroom.
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I would think the son would want to know. Unless he's some sort of loose cannon he should be able to deal with the issue without upsetting anyone. Have a talk with him.
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