My son's 5 yr relationship with his girlfriend recently ended and he moved in with his grandmother. He is bitter that he could not make both his grandmother and girlfriend happy. He blames me for not dealing with my mom more and is very resentful which I understand.
My mom is 81 however she is NOT an invalid. She drives to stores, dr appt, etc during the week. She has heart issues and has hearing loss issues but she can do things for herself and has mobility. (Uses a cane but no scooter)
I don't want to make her go to an assisted living community as she is able to care for herself currently. However, with my son living there with her and his bitterness is not a healthy environment for either.
I have told my son I would help him get a place of his own. (He has tried to get a place in the past but doesn't have credit due to not using charge cards, etc) He told me he would just stay at his grandmother's. I am at wits end feeling so bad and guilty. I want my son to have a HAPPY life and not have this burdon to take care of his grandmother.
Do I try to insist that he gets his own place (he promised his grandfather before he passed on that he would take care of his grandmother and home - he will inherit the home eventually) OR try to find a small condo for my mom so they both have their space?
I am dealing with this alone. My sister does not want to help or be bothered.
Any advise is appreciated.